The Butterfly awards voting links are now open. A chance for people if they would like, to vote for me to win a Butterfly Award.
Nominated and shortlisted for the blogger/author category.
Winning an award such as this would mean the world to me.
But let me tell you,it isn’t about the trophy itself. Or even keeping Melody’s memory alive.
Both are important.
But I want to help, I want to change the world,to change how people think and react to baby loss.
For me being so open, isn’t just about a form of therapy, but to let others know, it is okay to talk about it.
The feelings they may have are normal.
Yesterday I was doing a little fundraiser, a coffee morning. Sadly so few turned up,but we did raise money.
The one thing that has stuck with me,is a set of people came in, they placed an order and sat. One person asked what we were fundraising for.
As per usual,I jumped at the chance to speak about Towards Tomorrow Together, mentioning Melody’s Voices, what the charity has to offer,who we support.
My awareness given.
Only body language from a person I was speaking to.
That uncomfortable twitch, I recognise so well, you know when someone is really comfortable with what they hear or see.
The awkward nod, the gritted teeth grin.
The silent expression, which means “please stop”.
She probably didn’t realise I could tell. She probably doesn’t realise that most baby loss parents have seen these expressions, the uncomfortable fidgets.
She probably thought her acting skills were better than she imagined.
Greeted with a ” that’s nice” and a change of subject,I didn’t want to push further. She may of course have a reason behind her awkwardness. But to an unknowing eye, a disappointed ear, for a brief moment it makes me question.
Why Do I Bother?
The answer is simple.
These babies,these children, they matter.
Their families matter.
It is sad, nothing about losing a child is about pink rainbow unicorns. There’s no comparison.
Speaking out,making it less of a taboo helps.
Helps the parents,the siblings,the families.
Hearing “it’s too sad,let’s not talk about it”. Helps nobody, it just breaks people more.
Coming together, reading,listening raising awareness and funds, support the heartbroken friends or family members.
The fidgeting and awkward body language,screams volumes.
By writing,by talking I’d like to change these views, or at least make non-bereaved parents, or even older generations who find it hard to speak about such loss realise we’re not contagious.
Just because it is ” too sad” it can and should still be spoken about.
If you think I deserve a chance of winning. To break the silence. For my family. And for Melody,please take the time to head over and vote for me.
The ONLY thing wrong about baby loss, child death isn’t the talking, it is the dying.