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Turn Yellow For Little Daffodils Week

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Little Daffodils is a pregnancy and infant loss service, which provides group and online support, as well as face to face to anyone who finds a group environment difficult. We also supply sibling memory boxes and offer a stay and play session for children who have lost a sibling, so parents can gain support with those who understand.

Little Daffodils Awareness

This year we have decided to give Little Daffodils a much-needed boost, with various fundraising events to help extend the services which we provide. With this in mind, we are launching a week-long campaign to raise much-needed awareness for our fantastic network, by introducing a “Turn yellow for Little Daffodils” week.

This will run from the 19th February to 26th February, with a wave of light on the 26th.

We will be raising awareness of all losses, including various stories of loss and hope; sharing their precious babies.

We will share the services we provide; as well as information to help prevent women from the heartahe of losing their beloved baby. Plus signpost information about what happens when your baby dies, and what there is to offer. Small things, which can hopefully make a huge difference.

We would love to include your story; whether it is one of your babies who couldn’t stay, or how you come to meet the baby after. Sometimes the greatest power is knowledge; knowing about the conditions which take them from us can empower us to ask more questions.

This will be shared across Instagram, Facebook and Twitter.

You can find pictures here, should you wish to turn yellow in suport of our first campaign.

I hope you can join us. Stronger together.

#togetherforyellow

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Sibling memory boxes

Sibling Memory Boxes – Little Daffodils.

I recently shared with you a birthday package which Little Daffodils are now offering, now I share with you another package we will be offering.

Her Siblings

When we left the hospital our 4-year-old at the time received a key ring to remember his sister and her sister a tiny bracelet.  As lovely as they are, it’s a little ‘old’ for such a small child. As the years have passed Melody’s older siblings have each (of their own accord) put a memory box together for themselves, with little bits of their sister and things that remind them of her. This inspired me to give something to these siblings who lose a brother or sister.

Sibling Memory Box

So we’ve put a special sibling box together, which will be available to all siblings who lose a brother or sister.
They will contain,

  • A colouring book and crayons to help de-stress.
  • A dream catcher to help filter their dreams.
  • A natural bubble bath to aid a peaceful sleep in the early days of confusion.
  • A cuddly toy (designs of these will vary).
  • A butterfly.
  • Waterbugs and Dragonflies book. This is a lovely story, which explains death in a more gentle way.
  • Finally a scrapbook (not pictured), this can be used to collect memories and thoughts. Even as adults it’s hard to get our feelings out in the open, to question why babies and children die, so having a space for a sibling to collect their thoughts about the world after losing their much-wanted brother and sister.

The box can be decorated to how they would like, and keep any special items which they collect in there.

Supporting the children too

Children are often forgotten when supporting family members, they are labelled as being resilient, yes this may be true, but they too need to be supported. After all, they had their hopes and hearts broken too.

For more information on receiving one, please contact the Facebook page or via email.

There is no charge for these.

We currently supply

  • Musgrove Park Hospital Rowan Room
  • Musgrove Park Hospital SNICU
  • We will be supplying a batch soon to a hospital in Indiana.

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International Friendship Day – Community

Today is international friendship day, friends are an important part of human relationships. When something so devastating happens like the death of a baby, you fully expect to have the support of your friends around you. To lift you up when all you see is a heavy darkness. But what happens when that expectation isn’t met, and all you hoped for in a friend turns out to be quite the opposite.

Dark Days

There were many, many messages of sympathy from friends, from family and acquaintances. But when the real support of friends was needed, these turned into empty offers. As we walked down the street, we watched as people who had just offered “support” cross the street. It was obvious, as there have been times where they’d cross back after passing. What had we ever done, to not only lose our child but have people avoid us as if we were contagious. It all felt incredibly unfair.

 

Online

Many, many years ago it was believed that anyone you met on the internet would be weirdos, murderers or just generally hideous people. That attitude for me lessened when I met my husband through online. When pregnant with Melody I was poorly with Hyperemesis and suffered from Ante-natal depression; both making it difficult for me to leave the house. It isolated me completely, it certainly wasn’t an ideal situation. I found solace on a birth board – May 12, and then eventually Facebook splinter groups; they became my home, my safe place to post and be. We would all speak most days, and always check in after appointments, share the good, the bad and the ugly. It was lovely. Other Mums before me lost babies too, everyone came together; it was what we did. Lit candles, and held each other up.

When Melody was born early, there were a couple of us with premature babies, we would each share our fears, and share how well our babies were doing, it was a real community. I do miss it.

Then just like that, she was gone.

 

Different Corner

Their love and support continued, and I will always, always be so grateful to the Mayflowers (I named my book after them) and Baby Talk. They will never understand how much their friendship and support meant to me, in the weeks after she died; I really will never forget that. They were kind enough to club together and got us a memory box. One lady is my children’s God Mum, having lost her own baby, she became my rock.

As posting on the birth boards became more and more harder, I stepped back and found the corner of Babycentre nobody ever wanted to see; dark and ugly – yet with so many joining each day there was never a chance to build cobwebs. And that’s the painful thing, that baby loss is not rare.

I found support on PAIL, and have ‘met’ some incredible people, who have helped me, and in return, I hope I have helped them too, by helping them it inspired me to set up Little Daffodils.

Through PAIL I met another close friend – my internet weirdo..

 

International Friendship Day

I want to celebrate and thank all the people mentioned above for carrying some light, for helping to make the early days more bearable. Because without you all, I don’t know where I would be, I may never have met some of you, but please know you mean the world to me, and you are all Melody’s aunties – her family. Thank you for never letting her down.

Albus Dumbledore Quote