When we left the hospital our 4-year-old at the time received a key ring to remember his sister and her sister a tiny bracelet. As lovely as they are, it’s a little ‘old’ for such a small child. As the years have passed Melody’s older siblings have each (of their own accord) put a memory box together for themselves, with little bits of their sister and things that remind them of her. This inspired me to give something to these siblings who lose a brother or sister.
Sibling Memory Box
So we’ve put a special sibling box together, which will be available to all siblings who lose a brother or sister.
They will contain,
- Some colouring sheets and crayons to help de-stress.
- A dream catcher to help filter their dreams.
- A natural bubble bath to aid a peaceful sleep in the early days of confusion.
- A cuddly toy (designs of these will vary).
- A butterfly.
- Waterbugs and Dragonflies book. This is a lovely story, which explains death in a more gentle way.
- Finally a scrapbook (not pictured), this can be used to collect memories and thoughts. Even as adults it’s hard to get our feelings out in the open, to question why babies and children die, so having a space for a sibling to collect their thoughts about the world after losing their much-wanted brother and sister.
The box can be decorated to how they would like, and keep any special items which they collect in there.
Supporting the children too
Children are often forgotten when supporting family members, they are labeled as being resilient, yes this may be true, but they too need to be supported. After all, they had their hopes and hearts broken too.
For more information on receiving one, please contact the Facebook page or via email.
There is no charge for these.