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Happy First Birthday Little Daffodils

First Birthday

A year ago in March I made connection with Towards Tomorrow Together Founder, Mel Scott, I’d been planning to set up a pregnancy and infant loss support group for a while, probably from about six months after Melody had died. I wanted it to be a step towards breaking the silence, that is pregnancy and infant loss, a step to bring support to anyone who feels alone in this journey.
The date for a launch had been set, I began to feel incredibly nervous about the set up, so to help make my dreams into a reality I decided to contact Mel. With another Mum, Tracy the pregnancy and infant loss support group was launched.  
Where Mel came over, we had a lovely evening, albeit a small number of people had arrived, but we did however launch a truly unique group.

 

With the support from Mayor Dave Bulmer, local Midwife, Health visitor (although not pictured here).
It was lovely to bring awareness for what would hopefully become a successful support group. 
We have since moved from St Mary’s Rooms to now hosting the group in the upstairs rooms of Eleos, for which we have been incredibly grateful to their kindness and support, even when we do have the quieter sessions, they are always incredibly welcoming.

Reflection

This week we hit our very first birthday, it has only just dawned on me, that we have reached a year, so no balloons or big party, but a bit of reflection.
We have had some truly lovely people cross our paths over the past year, to share their stories, to find hope. It hasn’t been a particularly busy group, but it has been in my eyes successful. When we first started it was said if we could help just one person, then it makes all the hard work worthwhile, we’ve helped more than one, either as the group setting or via private messages.
I am pleased with that, of course not pleased that people have to find us, I wished no-one needed our resources, but to hopefully make other people feel less alone.

A Year

It has been an incredible year, raising the much needed awareness for baby loss, we were able to do things I never imagined possible.
 
From Radio Interviews, which included speaking about a Butterfly Award nomination, as well as raising awareness for the group and various public speaking opportunities. One of my (I think I speak for Tracy too) favourite moments was meeting the Archbishop of Canterbury, that was an amazing experience, such a lovely man. I could have spoken to him all day, he really made speaking about Little Daffodils and our story really easy.
 
We, with the help of other Mums, Sam and Gemma,  have hosted a couple of fundraising events, a coffee morning, table top sale and our very successful Barn Dance, which raised just over £1700! It was hard work, but an incredible experience to be involved with, and every single person had a wonderful time.
 
It has been a few months since the event, the awareness has grown somewhat, with most recently collecting a cheque from the Mayor in front of many inspirational people, we had been included in the town’s community fund, where we will be using it for study and awareness sessions for the town’s professionals.
 
We also recently had our very first Family Session, it was a lovely couple of hours, we even had Anna and Elsa for the occasion. We’re hoping to make this a regular session, but are actively looking for a new venue, which we’re really excited about.
 
So, this is Little Daffodils, First Year, huge thank you to everyone involved in getting us to our first birthday, I am excited to see what the next year brings.
We still meet the first Tuesday of the month from 730pm, upstairs of Eleos in the centre of town.
We have a fundraiser in August, with organising well under way, lots more awareness for such a fantastic cause. (It’ll also be in aid of St Margaret’s Hospice too). 

 

Thank you for reading and for your continued support. I hope to still be here for our second birthday. 

Family Drop in Session..Little Daffodils

Why it is so important to have this session.

In May 2016 Little Daffodils (formally named Melody’s Voices) was formed as a support group in Chard for parents who have lost a baby during and after pregnancy. Working with the Somerset Charity Towards Tomorrow Together, we have formed a solid partnership.
When I was putting the group together, there was several questions about whether or not Children could come to the group.
Being a parent who has lost a baby, and have other children, you kind of become like Clark and Superman.

Split personalities

But on how you react to such loss. There’s a mask, a different identity to wear one for the children (and often even to people who don’t truly understand), and one where you can be incredibly honest and open to the heartbreak that is baby loss, scream, swear, shout or simply sit in the silence whilst you take what has happened to you in.
Then there is the side you have to be around the children..
The ”I’m ok, Everything is fine” mask.
So the decision was made to not allow children to the evening sessions, to allow parents to be free to speak, share a tear or two, or just that time to concentrate on just themselves and the loss of their little one for a couple of hours.
Having a family session allows anyone who doesn’t have child care, or who’d like to come as a couple but normally can’t the opportunity to be able get some bereavement support, we are a very friendly bunch of people, who would like to help; this could be a small step to being able to come to an evening session, when you are ready.
Parenting after a loss, can be very different to how you would before, and at times can be incredibly lonely, when reaching out to other people, particularly if the other people don’t quite understand what you are going through.
We’ll have the usual “toddler” group set up, (I say toddlers, but of course older and younger children are also welcome), toys, chairs a cuppa and cake, both Mums and Dads are welcome too.
Talk as little or as much as you want, or not at all, just being in a place surrounded by fully understanding people, is sometimes all it needs to feel slightly less alone.

First Session, special guests

Little Daffodils’ very first family session, (here) will be held in the grounds of St Mary’s Church in Chard, from  Saturday 22nd April 11am until 12.30, it’ll be £1 per family, come and meet us, have a cuppa and some cake, see what we’re all about.
We’re very lucky to have the lovely Anna and Elsa come and join us too.
We would very much like to see you there, even if the circumstances should have been nicer.
Thank you for reading
Julz
Little Daffodils Team.

Melody’s Voices

To Make A Difference part two.

A little while a go,I mentioned about the baby loss face to face group I was working on.
The launch happened last night, Tuesday 3rd May. Once again unfortunately the attendance wasn’t huge,but I’ve come to realise this isn’t a reflection on me. I will push through this. Although attendance wasn’t huge,it was a fantastic evening. With new support I certainly was not expecting.
With full backing of health visitors,the local midwife,undertakers and now our town mayor,it has made me feel incredibly positive, that this will be a step forward in the right direction.
Opportunity to have an event or two.

mel and julz
(I hate my photo being taken!)

Group

Personally I think people assume that a group of this nature will be full of tears and sadness. Breaking down.
But it won’t be like this,of course there will be tears, having such losses are hardly a walk in the park.
But I’d like to enable people a safe place,where they can rant about their loss,not be met with judgement.
I’ve been to a non loss related group, the moment you’re picked out from the crowd,for not doing as the expected, belittled in front of strangers,almost forced to tell these strangers your biggest fears.

For Melody’s voices, I’d like people to feel welcomed, but not pressured to share their story. Come sit quietly,listen. Open up if and when you’re ready.
Come and talk about our crazy weather. Or listen to things you may relate to.
For me I know my conversations aren’t the same as someone who has never lost.

I really am excited for the future of this group,to be able help someone.

We’ve now a date for an event in October,we’re not sure what the event will be just yet, currently putting a committee team together.

Next group is Tuesday 7th June 1930.
We have tea and cake.

Thank you for reading and to those of you who continually support us.
Xx

 

To Make a Difference.

 

Towards Tomorrow Together

A year or so ago a lovely lady approached me with her wonderful plans of an idea to help bring the community together. A much needed service for the people of our town. In particular to offer decent maternity service,that sadly lacks in a lot of areas due to funding.

At St Mary’s was born.
Not only to offer much needed Maternity Services but a variety of other support groups in the area.
A venue that has had various groups over the years such as Brownies and toddler groups.
Set in the grounds in one of our beautiful churches, it will now become the home for my very own project,a project of course that is close to my heart.

When I was first asked,I felt so thrilled to be given such an opportunity. Unfortunately I became I’ll,so my project went on the back burner. Until recently have started to go full pelt,into getting it up and running.
I am thrilled to say I have support the Somerset charity
Towards Tomorrow Together. Who help provide support to bereaved parents.
I will look after the branch in my town.
I’ve (hopefully) provided support online and hoping I can continue face to face.

We have a launch date of Tuesday 3rd May 2016, At St Mary’s starting approximately 730/745.
I feel so honoured to be able to have this opportunity.
We will have monthly meets,and a rainbow group to eventually follow.

Please head over to our group TTT Somerset Baby Loss Support Group. Where we will have dates and more information.

I am also looking at a name change for my group. It is currently Cake and Cuddles. But with discussion would love to incorporate Melody’s name.
Any ideas greatly received.

Thank you for reading.

I wish Becky and her team the best of luck. Thank you to you,Sue and Mel for giving me a chance to make a difference.