From early on, I’ve always wanted to make sure that I could do something for her. Not on the same levels as her siblings of course, but to make sure she is included. Rituals to us, it felt important for her memory.
From the first few months, we felt it important to include her name somehow. Written in the sand, or other creative ways. We paid a visit to a local attraction, and there’s an area called “Melody Close”; an open-air theatre, where small shows are available to watch. It was one of the first photos of her name we took, now each time we visit, we always try to get a photo; watch them grow around the name.
We’ve recently hit approximately 200 location photos from people in various locations around the world, including California and Miami.
We don’t visit very often now, I hate to say it but we simply don’t always have the time, but I also hate having to say goodbye each time.
Every birthday we visit and make her space tidy and give her a birthday theme to match her age in which she should have been. We also always go out for lunch and eat cake.
Her anniversary we’ll just take flowers. At Christmas we’ll also give her a special Christmas place, as well as Halloween too.
Her siblings are majorettes and perform in carnivals so, we tend to match her colours with the colours the majorettes use. It’s the least we could do.
It may not be the right thing to do. But it’s our thing to do.
Everything surrounding her death and the aftermath, has been a complete eye opener, the lack of understanding, the lack of support. I wanted to try and change the aftercare, make sure nobody is ever left out, or left alone.
There is a very long way to go, but as a small group, we’re taking the steps to make it happen.
I just want to make sure that she doesn’t get forgotten.