Back to school
As the whole nation prepares for the return to school, including myself. There remains the large hole of a missing child.
Helping Melody’s little sister get ready for her next adventures in school; the preparation of shoes, and uniform; making sure book bags and P.E bags are ready.
When we missed reception in 2016, I thought it would have been one of the last big milestones. But it isn’t, not really. It is never going to be about losing “just” a baby. You lose not only yourself but a future, dreams. There’s a personality missing, a child whose name will never get called in a register, a child who is never spoken of by another child, or wanting them to come to play. These children who stand in the playground, who sit in the classroom, will never know that there is a girl who should have been there. A girl who should have been friends with them. To them, to their parents, she never existed. Our daughter, to the class of 2028 will never have existed. In the playground, I’ll never be “Melody’s Mum”.
The Shoe Box
There’s one extra thing we’re having to sort for the first few days of school, a shoe box to fill with memories their favourite things to let their class learn a little bit about them outside of school.
Melody lived in a box, she rests in a box and has two memory boxes full of things to help us remember her.
She doesn’t have a box of her favourite things, of her hobbies. It has nothing inside. No stories to tell of her family members, no adventures to share. Photos of her growing from a tiny baby to a girl entering into another year are missing, they will always be…missing. I don’t know her.
As if she never existed
I’ll fight to keep her memory alive, continually retelling the one story I have, the short story of her life. It’s all I have but for the children and parents going into another school year this week, for the children who become the students of the class of 2028. To the men (or women) she could have met to one day marry. An aisle she once stood at, will never be the aisle she could have chosen as a step towards her future. To the adults of the future. Melody never existed.
Not just the baby
She is not just the baby we have lost, we lost her whole life. Everything she could have been she’ll never be. All in a moment – gone.